Best approach after breakup if you plan to work on
regaining this relationship is to make it happen on positive wave
instead of making it something depressing and making your ex feel bad
about. This is a way of not burning your bridges with him and make him
wander how come you are not upset about this breakup. Some mystery
always helps as it plants continuous questions about something that he
can't understand which brings to main goal of making him think about
you. Just smile and tell him you are not upset and will love to keep in
touch but don't beg him to change his mind and show signs of depression
because of such turn of events.
Next step to understand how to win your ex boyfriend back
is analyzing what went wrong in your relationship with your ex lover.
And quite essential part of this step is to avoid any contact with him.
This will increase his interest since he can't understand why you
didn't make a scene out of this and didn't start calling him
continuously to make him change his mind. This stereotype of breakup
scenario is something everyone expects but if it goes differently makes
person who initiated breakup wander what's happening and why it isn't
happening as it usually would.
Now try to remember what clinched for both of you back then
when you started dating as it is essential and will help you in
planning your comeback later on. But main thing you have to understand
is where did you go wrong and especially when this relationship started
to fade. Usually it's not so easy task especially for emotionally
involved people who are completely in love with their lovers as
everything seems great and many things even those little obstacles go
unnoticed. Asking your ex is not the best idea because we need to avoid
any contact for some time after breakup and usually your ex will not be
so eager to discuss this topic as it will be increasing those negative
feelings between him and you. That's why you need either expert advice
to your mission of how to win your ex boyfriend back or good
informative source that will help you find those turn off points in
your relationship on your own and find out reasons of this breakup.
If you are considering your friends as experts then I can
assure you that in most cases this will not help as television these
days has programmed us to specific stereotypes of behaviour which in
real life don't work. There are of course some exceptions and usually
those are girls that are very good with men and know how to control
them. If you have such friend then you can try getting advice from her.
But best choice in this case of course are professional experts in
dating who have studied human psychology and behaviour and have
experience that will make analyzing of your mistakes easy and planning
your comeback very specific and effective. But one problem with such
experts is that they cost money and can go up to 300$ per hour for very
good expert and getting an appointment with them can take some time as
well.
So what I found very helpful was "Win Back Love"
ebook that I found on the internet. It also included checklist of
possible reasons why relationships go wrong to help analyzing my
breakup reasons. And now I am so glad I found this book because I managed to
get my ex back in a matter of 2 months. Appeared that he found some new
interest at the time and for some time he was more interested in her
but because I didn't end our relationship on bad wave as recommended
and made lots of things that made him think about us more than about
her it was just matter of time to make him call me and in the end it
happened like it was his idea of getting back.
