First you need to understand that right after breakup you
have to avoid any contact with your ex boyfriend because right now you
are vulnerable and might do something that will take him away even more
from you. Also at this time he is associating with you some negative
emotions he experienced in your relationship which actually lead to
this breakup and any contact with him will be reminding him of these
feelings and increase the negativity.
Next you need to change and not just physically but also
emotionally. For physical appearance you can try visiting some fitness
center and join some program to get you in better shape. This
especially will help those who have some extra weight or simply are not
happy with their looks. After few weeks of shaping up you will not just
look better but what's more important will feel better about yourself
and with this will increase your confidence and posture. Quite often
people underestimate importance of these things but in reality just
these two can make men fall to your feet.
Improving your looks will of course help you also changing
emotionally and as I mentioned first it will be your confidence. But to
improve it further and with that make your mind more prepared for
makeup with your ex boyfriend you need to get out and enjoy yourself.
You can simply join your friends and have fun at night club or visit
some festivities like beach party or concert of famous group. This
might sound quite easy but in reality this is one of most important
steps you will have to make and possibly hardest to overcome in your
current state of mind because if you just go out right away most of the
time you will be thinking about your breakup and have other related
negative thoughts and feelings. This will make this time wasted as
nobody will want to meet with you or have a conversation with depressed
person. But meeting new people and making new friends is quite
essential part of improving your life and preparing for your makeup
with ex boyfriend.
One of most important things you will have to learn in your
mission on how to get your ex boyfriend back will be forgetting about
him and everything that is related to him for some time. Put all the
things that might remind about him away from your sight or short reach.
Get an interesting book to read or find some activity which will take
up most of your time and give you less time to think about him. After
few days you will realize that you thing less and less about him which
will allow taking those steps I mentioned previously without any
distracting negative thoughts on your mind.
Now after few months that allowed you to become both
physically and emotionally different person you are ready to contact
him or even better setup an accidental meeting by help of his friends
and it is much better if this happens during some party or similar
situation where you are not alone but with your friends. First this
will allow him to learn about physical changes of your looks and make
him wander if he really made right decision before breaking up with
you. Then he will be ready to initiate contact and willing to chat with
you and find out more about what happened since he broke up with you.
Now emotional changes will help you because you will be feeling more
confident and prepared to face him without any negative feelings which
will allow him to again enjoy your company and even further question
his decision of breakup. Don't push him but let him pursuit you for
another meeting which might even be a private one and possibly even a
date which of course will lead to another chance for your relationship
but remember that you will have to keep your behaviour on same level
you raised it so that this relationship doesn't fade out again and
cause another breakup.
To learn more about how to change yourself physically and
emotionally for such makeup with your lover and succeed in this mission
on how to get your ex boyfriend back I strongly recommend this great
resource called "Win Back Love"
that will also help you understand where you went wrong in your
relationship, learn what mistakes you should avoid in future and even
improve your awareness to identify possible problems in your
relationship.
